What is the effect of sexual abstinence?
A lot can be read about the pernicious consequences of sexual abstinence, they focus primarily on the assumption that a man who has not had sex for a long time will have a problem with returning to form, and may even be depressed. How is it really? Read about the pros and cons of sexual abstinence.
Disadvantages of sexual abstinence
1. Lowering the mood
There are no applications confirming the fact that sexual temperance causes depression, but there are some that prove that having sex can minimize the risk of developing this disease. A study conducted in 2002 by psychologist Gordon Gallup, in which 293 women took part, proved that women having sex with a partner without a condom were less prone to depression than women who loved silicone protection. Why? This is not known until the end. Sex also has a positive effect on men – according to Dr. Rebecca Burch from the Department of Psychology at the University of New York in Oswego, her research shows that men who do not have sex are clearly less fortunate than those sexually active.
It can not be said, therefore, that sexual temperance causes depression, but the lack of sex can lead to a lowering of mood, nervousness, irritability and even anger – especially if sexual abstinence is accompanied by constant thinking about its causes
2. Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction
Long sexual abstinence can cause anxiety about what the return to sexual activity will look like – when the fears overcome the joy of long-awaited sex, erectile dysfunction may occur. On the other hand, this excitement and the thought of the coming pleasure may turn out to be dominant and cause premature ejaculation. Dysfunctions resulting from sexual abstinence, if they did not occur earlier, usually have a psychological basis, caused either by too much fears or too much excitement. If within a few months of returning to sexual activity these problems do not disappear, it is worth consulting with a sexologist.
3. Higher risk of heart disease
As demonstrated by researchers from the University of Belfast, whose research was published in 1997 in The British Medical Journal, the less a man achieves orgasms, the more likely he is to have a higher risk of heart disease and a worse taste and smell. What’s more, frequent orgasms are also supposed to have an effect on … the preservation of proper weight by men. As many as 1,000 middle-aged men took part in the study.
4. Reduced resistance
In turn, researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that people who have sex once or twice a week have 30% more immunoglobulin A in the body known to increase immunity. Sexual abstinence is therefore associated with a slightly higher risk of getting influenza or runny nose.
The advantages of sexual abstinence
1. The lack of sexually transmitted diseases
Sexually transmitted diseases, as the name suggests, can be infected during sexual contact. Sexual abstinence gives you the confidence that you will not get syphilis, gonorrhea or chlamydia. Importantly, the HPV virus responsible for causing cervical cancer causes infection during sexual intercourse. It is estimated that as many as 80 percent of sexually active women have contact with him – we distinguish over 100 types of HPV, but most of the cancer does not.
2. Strengthening the relationship in a new relationship
The decision to wait with the beginning of intercourse with a new beloved or a chosen one may result in a better understanding of yourself: your expectations, experiences and interests. Thanks to this, two people focus more on building relationships, letting feelings develop. Researchers at Brigham Young Univeristy’s School of Family Life conducted research on over two thousand spouses: they asked many questions about their relationships. It turned out that sexual abstinence had a positive effect on the relationship between them, as well as the subsequent satisfaction with sex. It is worth adding that the survey participants were not followers of a particular religion.
3. Possibility of focusing on self-development
People whose main driving force is not sexual abstinence, have more time to devote their attention to what is not related to sex. Interesting experience was carried out by Hephzibah Anderson, the author of the book “The Unexpected Story of My Year without Sex”, in which she described how her 365 days went without sex. The woman decided to be sexually abstinent because she had had enough short-term relationships based only on sex. It turned out that thanks to this it was easier to focus on other areas of life, among others on her work, she had time to read books, she also began to meet other men – with whom it was easier to build a longer relationship than to arrange a one-off sex.